Practicing Good Manners
Practicing Good Manners
The human soul is in need of developing educationally in order to become characterized by the best of morals and refrain from evil doings. This can be achieved by teaching ourselves the following points:
- Following in the footsteps and copying the examples of the Messenger of Allah, Muhammad [s], his infallible household (Ahlul Bayt) and the most righteous among his companions. Studying their biographies and considering all aspects of their virtuous behavior are essential ways of being led on the right path.
- Practice makes perfect and we should practice conducting ourselves with the best of morals, like truth, courage, generosity, mercy, benevolence and forgiveness. Whoever repeatedly does good deeds and behaves in a principled manner, such conduct will undoubtedly become habitual, whereas whoever commits misdeeds and ill-natured vices like hypocrisy, lying, deceiving …etc. will accept them to such an extent that they will not feel their abomination and the damage they cause.
- Avoiding people characterised by bad manners and not making them friends, because not mixing with such people removes the danger of being misled and should also discourage their unprincipled behaviour.
- We should also ask the forgiveness of Allah in case of committing sins or doing evil deeds and should regret and repent for such actions. This can be done through reprimanding ourselves and feeling that such action is bad and should not be repeated.
- Good manners surely indicate the goodness of the upright human soul while bad manners indicates that the soul of that man is evil and wicked. A good human soul is like a sweet flower from which fragrant perfume is emitted. Conversely one which is wicked can be likened to a poisonous smell that harms people.
- Allah bids us towards the best morals and will reward us accordingly on the Resurrection Day and also forbids us against bad morals for which He will duly punish us.
- Bad morals cause the destruction of society and the spread of corruption; he who has vices, his personality will be disliked and he will be liable to punishment, and people will avoid and humiliate him.
- The man with good morals is considered the foundation on which the structure of a sound Islamic society is built, and is among the causes of giving strength to Muslims.
- But if Muslim communities lose their good morals of justice, mercy and benevolence, they will be destroyed, and all the scientific progress and abundance of wealth can not prevent it. When moral principles are abandoned, the quality of life is disrupted and led astray. Thus we see war, gross injustice and rising crime spreading in immoral societies. Vices like lying, selfishness, greed, deceit and hypocrisy fester in the same way as germs destroy the human body.
- The onus is on all Muslims to ensure good morals which are preserved by way of self-education and practicing exemplary behavior.